10 Best Sex Pillows to Help You Hit All the Right Angles
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Great sex is all about hitting the right angles, but finding them can take some experimentation. That’s why a sex pillow is game-changing: These cushions are designed to support and direct the body, opening you up to a wider range of feel-good positions. We spoke to experts to figure out how to shop for sex pillows—and which ones will set you up for success.
What should you consider when shopping for a sex pillow?
Decide whether you want a foam or inflatable pillow: Foam pillows tend to be firmer and sturdier, but tougher to travel with and store. Inflatable pillows are better suited for packing into a bag or drawer, but are potentially less durable.
Take the cushion’s style and size into account. Wedge sex pillows (like the Liberator Wedge and Dame Pillo) are the most common shape and can prop up the hips, says Mason. They’re a smart choice for beginners, since they let you explore different positions comfortably, Carol Queen, PhD, staff expert at Good Vibes, tells SELF. “Wedges can support your back, stabilize you during oral, and elevate your butt,” she says.
There are also pillows shaped like ramps (which you can drape your body across), mounts (which you can hump and grind), cylinders, domes, and wedge-ramp combinations. Almost all are designed with removable covers you can throw in the wash, and some have loops that secure handcuffs and built-in holders for sex toys. Notably, any of these pillows is excellent for both partner and solo play. They expand your “depth-of-penetration options, allowing different angles of reach, so you don’t have to sit up to switch between vibrator modes,” Dr. Queen says.
The best sex pillows
Below, we’ve rounded up the best sex pillows according to experts and shoppers.
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- Amazon1
Best Overall: Liberator Wedge Pillow
Megan Fleming, PhD, a psychologist and AASECT-certified sex therapist, recommends using the classic Liberator wedge for an upgraded form of missionary. When slipped under the hips, its tilt “provides a better depth of penetration depending on the angle, and it could also give more clitoral stimulation,” she tells SELF. One Lovehoney shopper called the pillow an “essential.” They wrote, “I have weak wrists and shoulders, so when I’m on my hands and knees, having the wedge gives me something firm to lean against that can get messy. I also usually use a clit vibe during sex and rest my arm on the wedge in that position.”
- Pros: Machine-washable cover; strong, stable body (according to shoppers)
- Cons: Pricey; bulky to store
- Dame2
Best for Beginners: Dame Pillo
“Some people don’t have the space for a massive ramp—the Dame Pillo is really high-quality and a little bit more petite,” says Jenn Mason, founder and owner of sex-toy shop WinkWink. It’s 15 inches in length (compared to the Liberator Wedge, which is 24) and has both a removable cover and a water-resistant nylon inner liner—a real plus if you squirt, says SELF commerce editor Malia Griggs. “The Pillo is also discreet enough that no one would ever know I don’t just use it for back pain,” she adds.
- Pros: Discreet, small, water-resistant inner liner, machine-washable outer cover
- Cons: Might not be best for rough sex, as shoppers say the pillow’s fabric is prone to tearing
- Liberator3
Most Versatile: Liberator Wedge-Ramp Combo
Three experts recommended Liberator’s best-selling wedge-ramp combo, which has interlocking pieces you can use separately or together. The convertible design frees you up to experiment with all sorts of angles and positions (anal, 69, oral, you name it!) without putting pressure on your wrists, knees, and back. The brand also makes an upgraded version, which comes fitted with a cuff kit for BDSM and bondage play.
- Pros: Versatile, moisture-resistant liner, machine-washable cover
- Cons: Very pricey
- SheVibe4
Best Cylinder: Liberator Whirl Pillow
Mason suggests sliding this circulator bolster under the hips when lying face-down for extra support during doggy or anal. “While wedges and ramps generally stay in place, cylinders can move with the body a little bit more, which some folks like,” she says. In addition to its removable cover, the Whirl has subtle rings on either end that let you attach ankle- and handcuffs.
- Pros: Discreet, machine-washable cover, built-in loops for cuffs
- Cons: Pricey; bulky
- Amazon5
Best for Travel: Misstu Inflatable Bolster
This bolster is inflatable by mouth or pump (though shoppers say it’s much easier to use the latter), weighs only 10 ounces, and packs down flat when not in use. It also has a hole that can hold a dildo or another sex toy for hands-free play.
- Pros: Inflatable, budget-friendly, discreet, waterproof, includes carrying case
- Cons: May not be as stable as a foam pillow as it can lose air over time, one shopper says
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- Good Vibes6
Best for Oral Sex: Liberator Flip Ramp
Dr. Queen appreciates the variety of poses that the Liberator Flip’s two-in-one design can support: When it’s unfolded, you can recline on the velvety ramp during oral sex for easier eye contact and touch with your partner. Folded, the cube-like cushion is clutch to have if you want more height and motion in standing positions. “It’s also great for rear entry, either in the opened-up position or folded,” she says.
- Pros: Versatile, removable machine-washable cover, moisture-resistant inner liner
- Cons: Not ideal for small spaces as it’s almost the size of an ottoman; pricey
- Liberator7
Best for Masturbation: Liberator Wing Sex Toy Mount
Another solid option from Liberator is this bolster, which Dr. Queen praises for its sewn-in slits that can hold and stabilize a dildo or vibrator. She says this feature lets you really “put on a show” for a partner or experience the feeling of riding a penis by yourself.
- Pros: Two pockets for sex toys; machine-washable cover
- Cons: Bulky; pricey; can be tough to fit certain larger sex toys in the holders, shoppers say
- Amazon8
Best for Movement: Liberator Pulse Toy Mount
While wedges and ramps stay in place, a contoured pillow can rock with every hip thrust—a pleasurable feeling for some people (especially when paired with a clitoral vibrator, which tucks into one of the built-in pockets).
- Pros: Two pockets for sex toys (one for clit vibe; another for a dildo or G-spot massager), moisture-resistant inner liner, machine-washable cover
- Cons: Bulky
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- Good Vibes9
Best Paired With Wand Vibe: Liberator Wanda Magic Wand Toy Mount
Wand vibrator diehards, this one’s for you: It snugly fits the tapered handle of the cult fave Magic Wand (and others of comparable size, says Dr. Queen). You can straddle the mount from either direction, and it frees up your hands for other forms of stimulation while you get your buzz on.
- Pros: Built-in pocket designed to hold the Magic Wand, moisture-proof inner liner, machine-washable cover
- Cons: Pricey; threading the wand’s charging cord through the mount can be annoying, shoppers say
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Most Discreet: Helix Wedge Pillow
If you’re not sure whether a sex pillow is for you, consider a bed pillow that checks the right boxes. Helix’s wedge is made of supportive, firm foam and has a machine-washable cover. Prop up your head to enhance eye contact during oral, or place it under your hips for a little lift. You can also use it for better alignment between your neck and back while sleeping—and without all the dark velvet and vibrator holes that many sex pillows have, no one will know its purpose is a bit racier than a good night’s rest.
- Pros: Discreet; machine-washable cover
- Cons: It’s probably not as moisture-resistant as most sex pillows
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